Many expectant mothers spend the first trimester accepting the fact that they are pregnant and coming to terms with the implications. This is true for other family members as well. You may find yourself drawing inward and focusing on the changes in your body and on your fears and dreams. You may increasingly vulnerable to danger and may also fear miscarriage.
Even when the pregnancy is wanted, expectant parents usually have many questions: Can we afford a child? How will our lifestyle change? Will you have jealousy problems with our other children? The woman may wonder: Will I quit work? Both parents-to-be may feel a sense of panic at the additional responsibilities. Ambivalent feelings toward the pregnancy are very common in the early months. These feelings are not bad or wrong. By acknowledging and talking about them, you and your partner may find yourselves better able to cope with them and to accept the pregnancy. Facing your doubts and fears about pregnancy, aids in emotional growth.
Many couples enjoy more sexual activity during this time of adjustment while other couples may desire less sex. You and your partner should talk to each other openly about your feelings to prevent pent-up fears from damaging your relationship. By the end of this first trimester, you may find that you have begun to sort out and examine your feelings toward your own parents. Think about how you will be different from or similar to them. Among the other feelings you may experience during the first trimester are excitement, increased creativity, and increased sensuality. You may feel “special” during this time.
Mood swings sometimes become more extreme during pregnancy. You may find yourself laughing or crying over insignificant things. This problem is related to the increasing levels of hormones. Researchers believe that these hormones do not cause the moods, but probably increase the intensity of the feelings. Some evidence has shown that expectant mothers feel more anxiety if the baby is a boy, but the reason for this is unknown.
Women experiencing a second or later pregnancy often find that they are less preoccupied with the pregnancy than they were with their first. The major adjustment to parenthood seems to come with a first pregnancy. With later pregnancies, women have less time available and feel less of a need to ponder the meaning of each physical change.